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Great blog you've got.Free dating South Africahttp://freedatinginsouthafrica.wordpress.com/2014/07/14/free-online-dating-and-chat-rooms-south-africa/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-12179414266336291032014-07-06T15:53:47.459-05:002014-07-06T15:53:47.459-05:00This is only indicative of the countries that thes...This is only indicative of the countries that these men are from. Same way that any woman can go and date a man from Cuba then go and generalize that 'all American men' act like he does.<br /><br />There are many men who are like you describe you'd prefer your ideal man to be like. And there are many eligible men who live and work in more metropolitan areas. They are definitely not married off by the age of 25 either.<br /><br />South Africa is a normal, developing country just like any other. 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Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-35076241643460144662014-01-22T01:26:14.812-06:002014-01-22T01:26:14.812-06:00Makemylove.com, India's leading matrimonial po...Makemylove.com, India's leading matrimonial portal site strive hard to provide you the perfect match with a touch of tradition from a wide array of community, caste, city and much more for the global Indian community you can find your life partner with help of makemylove<br />matrimonials sites india<a href="http://www.makemylove.com/all-happy-stories.aspx" rel="nofollow">Matrimonial Service<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497848010575434599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-21328719991852528742014-01-19T12:05:06.711-06:002014-01-19T12:05:06.711-06:00Because folks are crazy these daysBecause folks are crazy these daysNurse Leleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00489733659437900628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-73821273256315768782013-08-23T01:10:48.019-05:002013-08-23T01:10:48.019-05:00i am a south african woman and i want to know exac...i am a south african woman and i want to know exactly where i stand with someone. im married to a cote de voir man, we met online and got married after five months of dating. we are happily married with a beautiful baby girl. its very simple you either like each other or not, if we are both adults why play games with each other. and about the Love You issue, i love you in most of our native languages means i like you. so most of the times when someone says i love you he actually means i like you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06667229251951776887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-37330666910874086692013-08-23T01:08:54.096-05:002013-08-23T01:08:54.096-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06667229251951776887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-34441652864121304022013-08-15T21:30:12.199-05:002013-08-15T21:30:12.199-05:00The American way of doing things is NOT thé way! I...The American way of doing things is NOT thé way! It would do you girls a lot of good to familiarise yourselves with other cultures with a sincerely open mind. Oh, whilst at it, do not merely scratch the surface (really delve into the fundamentals), and then go around professing to know it all. Average age of marrying in South Africa = 25? Maybe 20 years ago, it was. <br /><br />From an unashamedly South African woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-52843546226614324622013-06-03T14:11:44.997-05:002013-06-03T14:11:44.997-05:00I have had a very positive experience in online da...I have had a very positive experience in online dating, so I highly recommend globogirls.com to all my friends. I started online dating a year ago, and have had many funs, interesting dates, one 6-month relationship that just didn’t work out, and now am in a relationship with a wonderful man who treats me like a queen.<br />Maybe I’m the exception rather than the rule, but by following the advice I’ve got from my friends who use globogirls.com, I haven’t had any nightmare dates, and all the men I went out with were just what they said they were online.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06975607811621536025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-6764154637682206222012-05-06T13:00:03.842-05:002012-05-06T13:00:03.842-05:00Sunnei you make a really good observation regardin...Sunnei you make a really good observation regarding dating vs. marriage cultures. Thanks also for your warning of applying American standards to non Americans. I am pretty conscious of trying not to impose my culture, but I also realize that I am a product of my culture. Living in South Africa is somewhat difficult in that regard because there is such a strong American influence here. Overall, if I am honest with myself I prefer American men (or have not met the right international man yet). And I am ok with that and what that results in--being single overseas.Meishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14509760765235324890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-54675436604373173732012-05-06T12:41:30.054-05:002012-05-06T12:41:30.054-05:00HHHHHmmmm I am going to think about that a bit mor...HHHHHmmmm I am going to think about that a bit more!Meishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14509760765235324890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-16590804923913398032012-05-06T12:39:39.915-05:002012-05-06T12:39:39.915-05:00Per Brave New Teacher's story, so maybe we ove...Per Brave New Teacher's story, so maybe we overly complicate things. :0)Meishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14509760765235324890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-12321238583669880592012-05-06T12:38:16.070-05:002012-05-06T12:38:16.070-05:00WHEW I am so glad to learn its just not me. Thats...WHEW I am so glad to learn its just not me. Thats an awesomely hilarious story!Meishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14509760765235324890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-632672514509028942012-05-06T09:21:03.279-05:002012-05-06T09:21:03.279-05:00A few days ago I conversed with a friend about how...A few days ago I conversed with a friend about how complicated we "Americans" make relationships. Your post has provided confirmation. When you surpass the ripe old age of 42 you await the day to be admired, loved, stalked or whatever you want to call it. As one who has steered clear of primarily African suitors here in America because they hit me with the "L" bomb too soon I'm experiencing a bit a regret. Maybe, just maybe, if I had just rolled with it I might not be single today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-67204249111048965032012-05-05T02:43:09.075-05:002012-05-05T02:43:09.075-05:00It just goes to show... we say we want a good man ...It just goes to show... we say we want a good man who reciprocates our feelings, but truth is WE DON'T KNOW WHAT WE WANT?! Lmao... if he looked like Idris Elba, would you have ran to the hills?! I have been broken hearted by African Men and Black Men from the USA, but at least I knew where I stood with the African Men... No Games. With the American Black Men to this day they still can't tell me how they really and/or truly felt in our relationship (I guess for fear they will lose me as a friend). Little do they know, they had lost me years ago... but I digress. Whatever energy you give is what you will get... if that is energy of romantic confusion, expect to get someone confused romantically!!! Enjoy the fact that the men you are dealing with now are willing to be open about how they feel and you can then make an educated choice versus a wild guess that usually ends up being wrong!!! HAPPY DATING!!! ;o)Heather IsRhealistichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14070750329186378689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-51688383169035713222012-05-03T22:31:58.808-05:002012-05-03T22:31:58.808-05:00My ex-husband is francophone African and I have da...My ex-husband is francophone African and I have dated African men from various countries in the past. He is right, Je t'aime means I like you and it also means I love you. However, Je t'aime directly translated means I love you, when using an 'official' translating device. Culturally, I've noticed that African men don't have the 'defenses' that we do, so if they have a strong feeling, it is expressed. Of course, it is not love, but it is a feeling that is difficult to express.<br /><br />Also, note that the woman that they are dating in their own culture could possibly like the idea of a man calling and texting many times. To us it is stalking, to them it is showing you how much he really likes you. If the women in his culture like it and he doesn't fully understand our culture, this mistake can easily be made. You did the right thing explaining to him your cultural beliefs about dating. <br /><br />Now I am 'dating' an Indian man and in India there is no 'dating' per se, people just choose who they like and marry them or the parents choose the mate for them (dang, I sound like a 'dating machine' lol). This means our dating experience will not mirror what I experience with any Black American man.<br /><br />I think because of the limited Black male dating options for Black American professional women, we have allowed the 'game playing' to seem like a natural dating method. If a man loves you (definitely not after two dates) why can't he express that? Is is because 'their' game tells us that we are not supposed to hear it until after a certain time, if ever? <br /><br />Remember also, some cultures are not 'dating' cultures, some are marrying cultures. This means that they date for the purposes of getting married. This is a new phenomenon for woman who have dealt with men 'playing the game' and who are only interested in dating for long periods of time without committing to a long term relationship. Now that I desire marriage, I have to focus on people who are seriously considering marriage as a goal. That doesn't mean the person and I have to 'rush', but it means that feelings must be transparent. I am too old for the 'cat and mouse games'. <br /><br />Some of the qualities that you speak of are inherent in American men, specifically Black Professional Men. Keeping a brush in the car, a 'tight' hairline, wearing suits/owning multiple suits, etc. are not necessarily important to men from particular cultures. Where I am, I rarely see a man in a full suit because it is too hot. A shirt and tie usually suffices. Be careful sis with placing our American standards on men who are not American. In order to date internationally, you must begin to understand that there are certain characteristics of the man that will be naturally different.Sunnei Daishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17278620824655384603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-28176075910986250652012-05-03T21:11:17.064-05:002012-05-03T21:11:17.064-05:00Reading this post and all of the comments makes me...Reading this post and all of the comments makes me realize that we do complicate things. I'm a New Yorker and the concept of "I like you, you like me, let's be together" after mere hours of knowing each other just seems crazy. But reading this really made me question whether or not we complicate things a bit too much. Why should it be so difficult to feel. Yes, you can get hurt, but why hold on to it? We absentmindedly cross streets even though we know that a car could hit us.... so why not just feel and deal with the hurt if it happens? Most people recover from car accidents. They heal and move on. I wonder why it's so hard to think that way when it comes to relationships.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-85471129944794946592012-05-03T19:18:43.295-05:002012-05-03T19:18:43.295-05:00This succinctly summarizes how I feel as a Black A...This succinctly summarizes how I feel as a Black American woman dating/socializing with men in other cultures. When I was in Paris, I was proposed and sexually propositioned *in the Louvre* after 10-15 minutes of conversation. I had just been being polite via menial conversation but was too dense to realize the strong aggressive come-on. An Italian man sneakily kissed me outside a Parisian coffee shop and begged me to come to Italy to visit him and his family...after 1 hour of conversation. His reasoning as others have mentioned: "I like you. You like me. Let us be together. Don't think, just feel." In Korea, I've had a South African man (Nigerian descent) basically stalk and harass me for 2 weeks after I politely showed him around the small little town in Korea. I was mortified and had to avoid him. I'm starting to think that my independence is actually ATTRACTING men more :(<br /><br />I guess I'm brainwashed too but luckily seems like others are too ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02764995048039238827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-63970901554539383062012-05-03T17:27:04.164-05:002012-05-03T17:27:04.164-05:00It might be the same thing almost anywhere except ...It might be the same thing almost anywhere except for the "Western" countries. Here in Korea my friend told me you decide if you like each other after the third date. Then you are a couple. As someone who dates many people for months before I decide if I even remotely like them, I was taken aback that you can decide that much in 3 dates.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-66861499610098091652012-05-03T17:01:24.093-05:002012-05-03T17:01:24.093-05:00Hahahahaha, yes, I have had the same experiences w...Hahahahaha, yes, I have had the same experiences with Moroccan and Congolese men. The Moroccan told me he loved me after date 2 and The Congolese brotha told me after 5 or 6 hours. I definitely agree we have strange practices with dating in the States but I just don't understand the dating game outside of it. Maybe it's just me.Breian Brockingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11240470978664625835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2553573712479659356.post-71470493029356682062012-05-03T13:27:04.699-05:002012-05-03T13:27:04.699-05:00Lol you're not off at all...I've had this ...Lol you're not off at all...I've had this issue dating non-Americans, mostly Africans(I'm African myself but grew up in the heartland of America). I actually had one Moroccan guy tell me "We don't have complicated relationships. I like you, you like me, I've seen you twice, you are my girlfriend." It took everything not to laugh at how simple and easy it all seemed. Very elementary school...if only it were that simple.Ananda ECEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18313122130382171335noreply@blogger.com